Wednesday, January 30, 2013

We Need A Diet Revolution Not Diet Resolutions

January is almost behind us and we are nearly into the second month of 2013.  Many people gained weight during the holidays which is common for the American population and just as common, come January first, everyone swears to lose all of that weight and then some.  It is nearly the end of January.... so how's that diet working out for you? 

Here is the truth, diets do not work. Especially ones that you pay for, and even more so for the ones that have you buy their products.  I applaud anyone making any efforts towards self-improvement by any means available. I am just leery of the driving principles behind some methods, products and programs.

For the sake of my example, let's look at a great and successful program like AA. Now, I am going to morph AA into something a little more inline with what we see in most weight loss programs in this country today.  Imagine if AA were not modeled they way they were?  What if they were Alcoholic Watchers and not Alcoholics Anonymous?  Sure people would still go to meetings and talk about how much they didn't' drink that week, (or how much they did) then everyone would buy the AW approved "hooch" to take home for the week...  Everybody would still be drinking.... and guaranteed still being effected by it.

AA works because it's focus is not on the person being or getting drunk... no.  AA works because the focus is on preventing that person from taking that first drink and helping that person to avoid alcohol and the addictive cycle altogether.  So why don't commercial diet programs work the same way?  Diet programs focus on weight loss and being skinny but they never focus on avoidance of the substances driving that addiction which causes weight issues.  Diet programs do not focus on prevention.

The focus is erroneously placed on the end result...body fat and obesity.  And the measure of success is getting rid of just that.   Do people lose weight?  Most often.  Do they gain it back? Most often. Why?

Because just like an alcoholic who only wants to drink like a normal person, a person dieting only wishes to eat like a normal person... or to be more accurate, eat like they believe a normal person eats and still maintains or loses weight without much effort.  Diet programs, especially the ones that hock their own products for replacement snacks, etc. constantly try to tell you that you can in fact have "their" cake, and eat it too.

And trust me, they want you to buy and eat their cakes and cookies, chips and drink mixes....  You see, diet companies do not make money if you lose weight.  Not really.  Diet companies make money selling you their program and keeping you in their program. Diet companies make money and stay afloat by supplying just enough of the addictive substances for the addict to keep them hooked while allowing them to lose weight and believe they are making progress.  It's a scam.

All of that aside, the reason that diets fail is that they require compromise... if you don't eat too much of x... you can still have some of y - sometimes.  But you see... the model is flawed.  The problem is not the extra weight to be lost, no, that is only the symptom... the problem is not that you eat too much of x foods... assuming x, is made up of basic fruit, veggies, meat, etc. The problem is with y... y is all of the sugar, HFCS, fried, fatty, carbohydrate loaded processed food that we WANT to eat.  And the biggest reason that we want to eat it?  It was MADE THAT WAY!

A lot of people in weight programs talk about how nobody ever craves a carrot, or broccoli, but damned if they will do anything for candy bar or french fries!  Are the candy bars and fries better for you?  More healthy?  No. They are engineered to taste better; they are engineered to be craved; they are engineered to turn you into an addict; finally, they are engineered to take your money and give it to someone else. Weight gain?  That's really just a side effect of it all.  What you buy to eat and what you choose to eat - that is where the real issue resides.

Compromise is the biggest reason that diets tend to fail. Diet companies want you to compromise and that never works in any relationship or agreement. Compromise means that one side or the other had to take a loss in order for progress and as humans we do not do well with that.  The best option is to think collaboration. We need to form a collaborative relationship with food.  I guarantee if one were to step away from processed foods and focus on eating more wholesome and fresh alternatives, the desire for the former would be replaced by the latter.  And your body will be happier for it.

If a diet program is selling you the notion that you can lose weight by following their program and buying their books and their replacement meals and other food products... trust me, the only thing they are wanting to make lighter is your pocketbook or wallet.  In the end you may very well lose weight but is it the cause or the symptom that is being treated?

Wednesday, January 23, 2013


One of the things that I work with clients on is alignment within their lives. Are they actually striving to achieve the results that they desire in life on a consistent basis or are they short stroking their efforts with half-hearted attempts, and worse, self sabotage?  These are the kinds of barriers that have to be removed in order to achieve goals and create a life of quality.

It impossible to receive wealth, health or happiness unless we consciously put ourselves into the proper situation and place that would be of benefit.  Your thoughts, feelings and actions must be in alignment; and all at the same time.

It would be nearly impossible to have the thought of wanting to lose weight and create a healthier lifestyle if you are not feeling motivated to really do so or if you are still going to the fast-food drive through everyday.  The thought, the feeling and the action do not match up so more than likely positive results will not materialize.

Of course the overall perception of life plays a key as well in the business of attraction.  Once I had the vision that we act like a funneling point between the un-manifested and the manifested things in our physical world.  How I envisioned it was that everything is sort of just floating out there but also flowing in a stream and as we change our perception, our point of view, our focal point, our position in the stream or channel point changes also.  All these things that are un-manifested we either catch and it filters through us or it passes us by. 

One way to look at this is like a magnifying glass catching a ray of light.  It must be angled and focused so to create a real discernable point of light.  Another example would be a fishing net.  Depending where on the spectrum (or stream)  the net is placed dictates what will be caught in it.  In other words all of this stuff is floating around us, we just need to position ourselves correctly in the stream to catch it.  To get the better or bigger things we must be in the right spectrum of light or the right part of the stream.  While one part of a stream might catch only one kind of fish, being in another might catch more or bigger fish which are more edible.  So the reason I say perception, is that is what acts like the lens or the net which allows us to catch, filter, or seize the things we want or do not want, all depending on where we choose to focus.

What are the tools to get us to those different places in the stream?  First one must have courage.  The courage to let go of what is holding us back in life… the courage to let go and to allow new experiences, people and things to freely entire (and possibly leave) our lives;  The courage to take risks, to go for it and the courage to have faith in oneself. 

One must be willing to change habits and behaviors that may be holding you back.  If your dream is to see your grandchildren grow up, it might be a good idea to stop smoking, or drinking, or indulging in an unhealthy diet.  If your goal is to have the relationship of your dreams, maybe a change in dating patterns and an approach to dating is warranted.  If you want to win the lotto... then start the buying tickets.

As thoughts and feelings and actions change a persons life situation more than likely it is not going to be a 180 degree change over night.  Changes are often difficult and take time to fully affect results in one’s life.  It is the actual day to day accumulation of positive action, thoughts and feelings that are the stepping to stones to building an amazing life.

By consciously working diligently to put oneself in alignment of their dreams, goals and ambitions on a daily basis it is much simpler build a life that is truly abundant and happy.  And happiness is the overall key to it all, every time, without fail.  

The desert which can seem barren but once you know where to look you will see that it actually teeming with life.  Perception.

Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Fortune Cookie

Not too long ago I had Chinese food for lunch.  The fortune from the fortune cookie that day read, "This is a good time to consider formally helping others."  I kept that fortune like all of them except this one I kept on my nightstand where I could see it everyday.

I don' t know if that was part of the shift pushing me into the direction of starting my own life coaching business or if it is just time but now I feel charged and excited to begin work in this field.

There were many reasons that I decided to pursue a masters degree in counseling and work in that field.  Boredom and lack of interest in my past career field, the accumulation of my past personal experiences and studies, and a true desire to help people reach their greatest potential were reasons for my studies in that direction.

I have a genuine interest in getting to know other people and I am inquisitive by nature.  I like learning about other people, where they have been, what they have done, and where they want to go.   For thousands of years people have been helping other people, elders or healers, priests, chiefs, medicine men, and the like have been providing comfort, support, advice, and sometimes just a nonjudgmental ear.  The direction I wish to go in now is to combine what I have learned and experienced in my personal past with future formal training to be in a position to exploit my knowledge and interpersonal skills to help others.

I want to do more than just help people with their problems and listen.  Time alone can be a great healer and that healing can be accelerated with some assistance.

After many years of working in the computer and IT industry, I am electing to take a different path in life.  This journey into the helping profession  has been something that I have thought about and considered for many years.  Life circumstances and changes over the past two years have enabled me to begin this exciting stage in my life.  I will not be satisfied with merely helping people “just” overcome their problems.  I want to help people to take their crisis, whatever it may be, and not just have it be an episode in life to adjust to or heal from, but to use it as a launching pad into the rest of theirs lives and a better life.  I want to help people see their situations not as ends or problems, but as beginnings and opportunities to take on with enthusiasm and excitement.  

Just like the fortune said.... it is a good time...

Monday, January 14, 2013

Hello and Welcome!

Welcome to the blog space for Tri Peaks Consulting.   Today is January 14 and I plan to have this company with all of it's social media footprint up and standing no later than Wednesday, January the 16th.  This is a very exciting time and I am so looking forward to getting to meet and work with with everyone and helping them to achieve their fullest potential in life.

Like I said... Exciting!!!!